Philippa, Jennie and Don’s story: part 3

In the last two posts I told you about Jennie and Philippa, who had managed to stay together (eventually) through Jennie’s affairs and Philippa’s transition from a male to a female body. The year or more of upheaval and communication helped them to work through not just Philippa’s gender identity issues but also Jennie’s difficulties […]

Philippa, Jennie and Don’s story: part 2

In the last post I told you how Jennie’s admission that she had had several affairs coincided with her husband Philip’s admission that he wanted to live as a woman, to become Philippa. What happened next? Jennie supported Philippa through the sex change but found it hard. She was continuing to spend time with other […]

Philippa, Jennie and Don’s story: part 1

This is the extraordinary story of a marriage that has survived through one partner’s gender reassignment, the other partner not only having several affairs but also discovering that she liked to be dominated, and the addition of a third partner to form a committed three-way partnership. Philippa and Jennie have been together for over 33 […]

Helen’s story: part 2

In the last post I told you about Helen, David, Julie and Miriam and looked into what options Helen had, once she realised she was falling in love with Julie. But enough about the possibilities: on to what actually happened. Helen didn’t feel guilty about spending time with Julie – how could such bliss be […]

Helen’s story: part 1

As promised, here is the first part of a story from one of my research interviews. This is the story of how Helen and David, who had happy, fairly conventional monogamous marriage for 43 years, coped when Helen fell in love with someone else. David and Helen had a strong relationship, a good sex life […]

The stories I will be telling

In this blog you will have a chance to get to know some people whose relationship styles could be called Open Fidelity. They have gone about it in many different ways, but they have all had more than one lover, or had a partner who did, and have all been honest and responsible about it. […]

A summary of Open Fidelity

OK, I’ve talked about the problems with both monogamy and cheating. Is there another way? Yes – it’s called Open Fidelity. I think it’s time for an overview of what I mean by Open Fidelity. The following statements sum it up. People can love more than one person at a time. There are people in […]