Kinds of Open Fidelity

The relationship structures of the people I have interviewed can be fitted into four models. They illustrate four different ways in which you can go about honest nonmonogamy. Different models work best for different people, and there is some overlap between them. It is possible to change from one model to another over time. The […]

Promises

One of the key principles of Open Fidelity is to do with promises, and I want to look at this in more detail here. There are three main aspects: keeping the promises you make avoiding making promises that you don’t think you will be able to keep renegotiating your promises rather than breaking them All […]

Russell’s story: part 3

I’ve told you how Russell cheated on his partner Sylvia and how that in the end this led to their breakup. Now he tells how his relationships became more honest: When I was near the end of the long-term relationship with Sylvia, Sally was one of several sexual relationships I was having – some regular, […]

Russell’s story: part 2

In the last post I introduced Russell and told you how he started to hide his occasional coffee dates with other women from his partner Sylvia. Here he continues his story: About four and a half years into our relationship I had a very brief amorous encounter (non-penetrative) while on holiday. which left me feeling […]

Russell’s story: part 1

Russell is 38-year-old entertainer who finds it difficult to be monogamous and is now in an open relationship. This is the first part of his story, before he met his current partner, in his own words. At the age of 20 I met my future partner of 9½ years. Sylvia was an arty type and […]