Russell’s story: part 3

I’ve told you how Russell cheated on his partner Sylvia and how that in the end this led to their breakup. Now he tells how his relationships became more honest: When I was near the end of the long-term relationship with Sylvia, Sally was one of several sexual relationships I was having – some regular, […]

Russell’s story: part 2

In the last post I introduced Russell and told you how he started to hide his occasional coffee dates with other women from his partner Sylvia. Here he continues his story: About four and a half years into our relationship I had a very brief amorous encounter (non-penetrative) while on holiday. which left me feeling […]

Russell’s story: part 1

Russell is 38-year-old entertainer who finds it difficult to be monogamous and is now in an open relationship. This is the first part of his story, before he met his current partner, in his own words. At the age of 20 I met my future partner of 9½ years. Sylvia was an arty type and […]

Philippa, Jennie and Don’s story: part 3

In the last two posts I told you about Jennie and Philippa, who had managed to stay together (eventually) through Jennie’s affairs and Philippa’s transition from a male to a female body. The year or more of upheaval and communication helped them to work through not just Philippa’s gender identity issues but also Jennie’s difficulties […]

Philippa, Jennie and Don’s story: part 2

In the last post I told you how Jennie’s admission that she had had several affairs coincided with her husband Philip’s admission that he wanted to live as a woman, to become Philippa. What happened next? Jennie supported Philippa through the sex change but found it hard. She was continuing to spend time with other […]

Philippa, Jennie and Don’s story: part 1

This is the extraordinary story of a marriage that has survived through one partner’s gender reassignment, the other partner not only having several affairs but also discovering that she liked to be dominated, and the addition of a third partner to form a committed three-way partnership. Philippa and Jennie have been together for over 33 […]

Helen’s story: part 2

In the last post I told you about Helen, David, Julie and Miriam and looked into what options Helen had, once she realised she was falling in love with Julie. But enough about the possibilities: on to what actually happened. Helen didn’t feel guilty about spending time with Julie – how could such bliss be […]

Helen’s story: part 1

As promised, here is the first part of a story from one of my research interviews. This is the story of how Helen and David, who had happy, fairly conventional monogamous marriage for 43 years, coped when Helen fell in love with someone else. David and Helen had a strong relationship, a good sex life […]