Open Fidelity describes a new way of thinking about faithfulness in sexual relationships – a way that doesn’t assume that faithfulness means monogamy.
Many people find monogamy impossible but still want to be honest and responsible in their relationships. Open Fidelity is one way to reconcile these two things in one ethical way of living. It is also a good way to enable partners to fulfil their deepest desires in other ways than monogamy.
Fidelity – or faithfulness – basically means keeping the promises you have made. This means:
- having your partner’s needs in mind in all your decisions
- working with your partner to fulfil the deepest desires that you both have
- being honest with each other at all times about what you really desire, even if that means sex with someone else
Sexual relationships can be faithful in this sense while allowing partners to pursue what they most desire, even if that means sex with someone outside the relationships. Open fidelity means making realistic promises that you can keep, and then keeping them.
If you are open and faithful, there is a world of possibilities to try. You and your partner (or spouse) could have short flings or longer-term lovers as well as your committed partnership. You could try swinging, going to sex parties or meeting another couple. Or you could seek out several long-term loving relationships – also known as polyamory.
It isn’t easy, but it is possible and it can be wonderfully rewarding.
Please note that Anna is not currently working on the Open Fidelity project, but this website is remaining online in the hope that it is helpful to some.