Philippa, Jennie and Don’s story: part 1

This is the extraordinary story of a marriage that has survived through one partner’s gender reassignment, the other partner not only having several affairs but also discovering that she liked to be dominated, and the addition of a third partner to form a committed three-way partnership. Philippa and Jennie have been together for over 33 […]

Problems caused by cheating

Let’s look at the problems you fact if you start having a secret affair. The edifice of lies First of all, cheating by definition involves lying to your partner. You have to avoid mentioning this new interest in another person, even though you’re probably thinking about them all the time. You have to lie about […]

An experience of cheating

One of the many people I’ve interviewed about monogamy and nonmonogamy is Nell (not her real name). Nell has given me permission to share her experiences here. Here is Nell describing her experience of being unfaithful: “I was monogamous for seven months with one boyfriend. When an opportunity for sex arose with a close female […]