A lot of the ideas in this blog overlap with those of polyamory, a relatively new term which is derived from ‘many loves’. Open Fidelity and polyamory are variants of one basic idea: honest, responsible non-monogamy. One definition of polyamory is “the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at […]

An experience of cheating

One of the many people I’ve interviewed about monogamy and nonmonogamy is Nell (not her real name). Nell has given me permission to share her experiences here. Here is Nell describing her experience of being unfaithful: “I was monogamous for seven months with one boyfriend. When an opportunity for sex arose with a close female […]

Terminology: monogamous, partner, infidelity

Monogamous I am using the word ‘monogamous’ in this blog to mean ‘having sex with only one person over a period of time’. A person who is monogamous is someone who, over the course of, say, a year, has sex with only one person. I will usually mean ‘sexually monogamous’, that is, if someone has […]

A new blog

Welcome to the new Open Fidelity blog. I am writing it as a response to the common assumption that you either have to be completely monogamous, or celibate, or cheat on your partner. Monogamy is difficult, and cheating is dishonest; so is there an alternative that doesn’t involve celibacy? In mainstream British society nearly 21st […]