Kinds of Open Fidelity

The relationship structures of the people I have interviewed can be fitted into four models. They illustrate four different ways in which you can go about honest nonmonogamy. Different models work best for different people, and there is some overlap between them. It is possible to change from one model to another over time. The […]

Steering the polyamory bandwagon

You may have seen the link from here to Alan’s excellent Polyamory in the News blog. Last week Alan commented on a very interesting article in Wired by Regina Lynn, Internet Pushes Polyamory to Its ‘Tipping Point’. The Wired article suggested that the term polyamory has swept to mainstream acceptance. Alan makes an important point […]

Philippa, Jennie and Don’s story: part 3

In the last two posts I told you about Jennie and Philippa, who had managed to stay together (eventually) through Jennie’s affairs and Philippa’s transition from a male to a female body. The year or more of upheaval and communication helped them to work through not just Philippa’s gender identity issues but also Jennie’s difficulties […]

Polyamory

A lot of the ideas in this blog overlap with those of polyamory, a relatively new term which is derived from ‘many loves’. Open Fidelity and polyamory are variants of one basic idea: honest, responsible non-monogamy. One definition of polyamory is “the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at […]

An experience of cheating

One of the many people I’ve interviewed about monogamy and nonmonogamy is Nell (not her real name). Nell has given me permission to share her experiences here. Here is Nell describing her experience of being unfaithful: “I was monogamous for seven months with one boyfriend. When an opportunity for sex arose with a close female […]