One of the key principles of Open Fidelity is to do with promises, and I want to look at this in more detail here.
There are three main aspects:
keeping the promises you make
avoiding making promises that you don’t think you will be able to keep
renegotiating your promises rather than breaking them
All three are essential.First of all, [...]
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OK, I’ve talked about the problems with both monogamy and cheating. Is there another way?
Yes - it’s called Open Fidelity.
I think it’s time for an overview of what I mean by Open Fidelity. The following statements sum it up.
People can love more than one person at a time.
There are people in honest, responsible relationships between [...]
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If someone is in a monogamous relationship and is attracted to someone who isn’t their partner, conventionally they have the following options:
ignore the feeling and stay monogamous;
leave their partner in order to get together with a new partner; or
cheat on their partner with the other person.
I’ve talked a bit about staying monogamous, though I’m sure [...]
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Staying monogamous takes a lot of effort. And even when both partners in a couple are keeping to the rules, suspicions can arise and have a corrosive effect on the relationship. But even apart from these issues, I have another, more basic problem with monogamy.
If I promised to love only one person until death, I [...]
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